Ok mommies, advice time!! As most of you know, my little Dru is almost four weeks old and even though this is my fourth baby you would think I have this newborn thing down...um, wrong!! This little boy has thrown me for a loop and I am in need of some mommy advice. SOO, here's the problem, as much as I love this little man and would cuddle him all day long...HE WANTS TO BE HELD ALL DAY AND ALL NIGHT LONG!!!! He's such a cuddlier and definitely loves his mama, which I can't get enough of, but that's nearly impossible with three other little ones. He falls asleep in my arms, I put him down, he wakes up two seconds later screaming, I pick him back up, he snuggles right into the corner of my arm and falls right back asleep. I was ok with this for awhile, but am getting very sleep deprived and wondering if it's to early to make him cry it out so he starts falling asleep on his own.
The baby wise book says to start letting them do this at two weeks, but that seemed so little to me. The problem is even at four weeks he seems so little and it breaks my heart!! So, is it to early to do this or is it fine to let him cry himself to sleep so he starts learning how to put himself to sleep? I go back and forth !
Besides the sleeping thing he's a great baby! We are loving him to death and are so happy he is finally here with our family. Funny how before they get here you wonder what it will be like with them, and then once they get here you forget what life was like without them. My other kidos are adjusting pretty good, Talon has his occasional fits but that was like that before Dru was here! Hope you are all enjoying your summer and doing well, we love you all!!
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Kamdens a snuggler too. I started wrapping him SUPER tight and then rocking him and puttin him down. Because of how tight he's swaddled he can't tell the difference when I put him down. I too, cannot let him just cry and especially at 4 weeks I couldn't but that's just me, other moms would disagree. Hey you're still a rockstar in my eyes so keep it up mama
Swaddling really tight was the best with Drake too. I used a stretchy light blanket, and then did a second blanket and he loved it and usually slept ok on his own. But it was cooler then too, so two blankies may be too many. Anyway, you are doing a great job! And I know it is really hard to be sleep deprived, but it's so fun to have such a tiny baby too! Keep your spirits up, even though it's hard when you are super sleepy! Miss you!
with my girls I swaddles tight and then put them in a swing reclined or in their car seat or in a bouncer/vibrating chair, they didn't like laying flat when they were that little. Also with my 2nd I wore her in a sling a LOT since she didn't like to be set down. Oh yeah and both my girls liked the warmth that went away when I set them down, so I put a heating pad on low where I was going to lay them and then removed it and layed them there and so the cuddled into that warmth. Hope you figure something out & get some sleep!
Hi there! So you don't know me but I'm Kami's friend so sometimes I see your posts... Anyways - I just had a baby 3 wks ago and was having the same problem as you, where as soon as you put them down they wake up!
I totally recommend the swaddling, but I also recommend this schedule (if it works for you):
- Feed him for 15 min. / burp him / change diaper / play with him until he's real cranky or give him bath / then feed him for 15 more min. (this works well if you're breastfeeding because you can just switch sides) / swaddle him / hold him upright real close so it will help him burp / get him to sleep / and THEN lay him down.
Sorry such a long schedule but it really helped my little girl and now she goes down like a charm each time. Hope it helps! :)
Joy
Swaddling, crib positioner (the one i used was a U shape), and sound machine (a box fan also works and my pediatrician said moving air reduced the chance of SIDS just don't blow it directly on the baby). I felt the same way with baby wise and couldn't do it at 2 weeks tried again a 4 weeks and them modified it so I felt comfortable at 6 weeks. Warning,this advice is unexperienced compared to you.
Oh girls how I love you alL! Thank you so much for the advice..I'm trying it all! Yesterday he did way way better, the swaddling thing worked way better this time, and Joy I think you're totally right with the feeding thing. I've been working really hard on the scheduled feeding and that has worked wonders. He's a gassy little thing too so holding him upright and baths seem to help also. I do have a fan/noise machine so that does help too..anyways, thanks so much!OH and Cheryl, I don' care what number of baby or amount of experience someone has...newborns are confusing little things for me from day one so thanks!! I love that we are all able to help eachother and able to realte, thanks again mommies!
Hey sweetie,
It's Andrea and I was just going to say that at least with my neice and newphews, they were really gassy and it was found that they had acid reflux and didn't do too well with the milk issue. That might be something to work on. Just a thought. I hope all goes well and I'm expectin a little boy, James Henry and will be 21 weeks come Thursday. Good luck girl! You're a great mom!
The Sleepy Wrap comes highly recommended. Strap him on, let him sleep. Hands free! I guess if you're not into babywearing this is crappty advice, but my baby girl could tell when I put her down even when she was swaddled.
Kind of a stalker here - but since we were on the same basketball team in eighth grade, maybe it's less creepy?
Shoot I'm already behind on Babywise??? It seems so early to start all that. Why does Lyla grunt allllllll night long when she is sleeping right next to me but doesn't make a peep when she is sleeping in her swing during the day. Even though she is going longer between feedings I'm awake cuz she's so noisy. Wait...I didn't answer your question, just complained about my problems. haha sorry. Talk to you soon I'm sure. :)
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